Nearly every problem with weight loss and poor health are related to being disconnected from your body.
Read that again.
When you are not aware of your body in the present moment, you miss your subtle hunger and fullness signs and do not connect the feelings of energy or lethargy with what you recently ate, or your movement or lack thereof. Many of my clients come to me and are unknowingly suffering from this disconnectedness, they spend a lot of time “in their heads” and are constantly thinking, worrying, fretting, dreaming. Time in your head is important, to plan, dream and strategise, compare, remember etc; however if you spend all your time up in your head and you are not living in the experience of your body in the present moment, you are missing out on a lot.
Scrunch your toes. Flex your fingers. Shrug your shoulders. Take a deep breath. Remember your body? How does that feel?
What do your clothes feel like brushing against your skin?
Notice your abominals expand and contract with each breath. Consciously relax your shoulders and jaw. How is that?
One of the central tenets of Buddhism and Yoga (and probably other philosophies I don’t know about) is the focus of living in the body, in the present moment, and releasing yourself from the struggles of the mind. Eckhart Tolle writes “Love, joy, and peace cannot flourish until you have freed yourself from mind dominance”
You shouldn’t chase after the past or place expectations on the future. What is past is left behind. The future is as yet unreached. Whatever quality is present you clearly see right there, right there. — Buddha, Bhaddekaratta Sutta
Many people spend their time with past focus. A distant past focus might romanticise or judge the distant past. Notice some elderly people who speak of the “good old days…” You might also have a past focus and continuously replay scenes and events in your mind, judging what you or others said and did, and trying to “read into” what people meant when they said certain things. You might use the looping replay to beat yourself up about something you said or did.
Other people spend a lot of their time dreaming or worrying about the future. Building grand visions of wonderful or terrible events, situations and experiences. Again, this can be useful in brief, but if you spend all your time dreaming about the future, you are missing opportunities to take action, avoid your worries and make your dreams a reality.
The common thread whether you think positively or negatively about your past and /or your future is that all of it is up in your head, it doesn’t exist except in your mind, and it does not change anything about your life unless you act on it. Action is where you are going to create the results and experiences that you want in your life. Action is only done in the present moment through your body.
Your feelings are a feedback loop from your thoughts to your body. When you are stuck in your head, you don’t give yourself the chance to truly feel your feelings, to experience, process and express them.
When you notice yourself stuck “up in your head”, bring yourself back to your body and notice what happens. Here are some ideas to help bring you back…
Do you find yourself stuck in your head? Do you sometimes feel disconnected from your body?
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