That smell can get on everything and make it STINKY!
It will ruin your enjoyment of the house until you FIND it and get rid of it!
In just the same way, these 3 belief killers erode your self esteem and motivation and make you feel tired, lethargic, hopeless and helpless. They ruin your enjoyment of your life, drain your energy and stop you from looking after yourself, which you know ends up in a tight waistline, clothes that don’t fit anymore and empty chocolate wrappers stashed in the bin.
After years of working with women who have struggled with their weight as a chronic ongoing issue, we invariably find these 3 beliefs somewhere in the hidden cupboards of their minds… Zig Ziglar called it STINKING THINKING!
If you find them, know that they are not true, and YOU CAN change them!
We can help you create your new body confidence and food freedom on all levels of change.
Hey team! Today I want to talk to you about 3 beliefs that kill your motivation.
If you want to ramp up your motivation to get the body confidence that you want and create the body that feels super great to live in, then you need to listen up and check yourself if you find yourself telling these motivation-killing stories to yourself that have become beliefs that you play in your mind.
“I have no time to exercise. I have no time for meal prep. It takes up too much time to be healthy and slim – and I just don’t have the time.”
“I’m too busy. I have too many other things to do. I don’t have the time for this.”
When you’re constantly telling yourself there’s not enough time then it means that you’re not actually saying that you’re worthy of investing that time in yourself
Now we all know that we all have the exact amount of 24 hours a day. No one has more time than anybody else. So what we need to really learn how to manage is not to our time but our attention and our values.
Where are you putting attention on something or putting priority and sending your consciousness your energy in that direction that could be taking time that you could be spending and putting energy on radiating your healthy body?
We see this happen so many times. If I had a dollar for every time a woman told me that that struggled with their weight: “I can’t say no.”
What happens is when you can’t say no to other people, you end up saying no to yourself.
And so every time you swallow down your own truth and say yes to someone else when you’d really rather say no and instead let that kind of resentment, martyrdom, or feeling like you didn’t really want to did it, or maybe you were coerced, or maybe you were being a nice girl and you didn’t actually tell your honest yes and honest no, when you don’t say no to other people, you’re saying no to yourself.
What happens is that we end up trying to stuff down our truth by putting food on top of it, by putting wine wine on top of it, so that we can squash down our truth to keep our truth suppressed so that we can continue to live up to other people’s expectations.
Now the truth is, you need to be able to say no to others if you’re going to create space for yourself to build new healthy habits. That’s just the way it is. And so, being able to change your mindset to be able to say an honest yes and an honest no to others is really important.
“I’m already overweight. I’ve tried so hard before.” It’s this idea of “What’s the point? I can’t be bothered.”
It really brings in this helpless victim kind of archetype that says, “Oh, I’ve tried so hard, I can’t do it. Poor me. I can’t do it. I can’t be bothered.”
And so it really just drains the energy out of your body. It drains your determination. It increases your feelings of failure as you then just play over in your mind all of the times that you’ve tried and you haven’t got the result that you want.
But the thing is, if you have continued to keep coming back even if you’ve had little slips in between, if you’re still watching this and you keep coming back to wanting to make a change to your body, you actually can be bothered.
And that’s proof of how determined you really are – that even in spite of all the obstacles, you’ve continued to move forward, you’ve continued to keep coming back to this. It shows that it’s something that you really care about.
So that story, that victim part in your mind that says, “Oh, I can’t be bothered, what’s the point? I’m always fat. Blah blah blah,” that type of feeling, that part of you that says that to yourself, that part of you really just need some nourishing, some nurturing, some kindness, so that you can then find the energy and the fire within you to then go out and start taking action towards what you want.
Now if you really care about making a change to these stories of being able to say an honest no to someone, to be able to create space and time for yourself to live in this confident, healthy, happy body and be bothered to look after yourself, to be bothered not just for yourself but for your children, for your family, for your friends – everyone that’s in your circle of influence – to be bothered for that. This is an important thing.
And if we all can’t be bothered then the whole world is going to just kind of fall apart.
So it takes someone making a stand and being bothered and standing up for themselves and say, “No, I’m worth fighting for. I’m worth standing up for.”
The thing is that you’ve been fighting and you’ve been trying to do do things under a no-win system. The way that you’ve been taught before about diets and exercise and weight loss is 9 times out of 10 probably exactly the wrong thing that you shouldn’t have been taught that have set you up for failure.
What Bianca and I have created in our Food Freedom Formula is a really simple system that helps you to unpack that perfectionism, that all-or-nothing diet thinking, those stories that make you put yourself last, so that you can actually start to look after yourself, to be there for yourself, to back yourself and start to actually make the choices that help you to feel good in the moment, not just restricting yourself and depriving yourself for some future goal, some future achievement down the track.
The truth is, body confidence starts here, being happy in your body starts right now. Whether you’re in a super slim body or not, you can be happy with and love your body and look after your body. Right now. Exactly the way it is.
And the more people learn that, the more they’ll be able to then feel inspired to do the things that nourish and nurture their bodies.
If you’d love to find out more about how we can help you to start to turn these mindsets around, so that you can supercharge your motivation and have the inspiration to get out and do your workout and do your food prep and make some really healthy choices that help your body feel really light and full energy, then reach out and we’ll book in for a little call and we can have a chat with you about it.
I’ll post the link below so you can reach out and have a Body Breakthrough Session with us. Let us have a chat with you and see how we can help you turn those mindsets around so that you can start making choices that help you move forward and not backwards.
The time is now, my friends. No more resolutions, just solutions that last. Small steps moving you forward everyday.
See you soon!
I’ve passed the big 4-0! I’ve now ‘released’ 48kgs, since the birth of my son 2 years ago. To Kylie, Selina and all my GBQ sisters, you helped me to get out of my own way, so I could coach my inner critic and encourage my cheerleader. I am getting my pre-babies mojo back and am in a better headspace than when I was fighting fit! I feel like GBQ really delivered on the greatest gift, self-love and clarity, and has given me the confidence and conviction to continue my journey! Thank you.
With Kylie’s help I released the hopelessness & anger I was using as an excuse, and have stepped out of my shell with a vengeance! I’m now clear on what I want to do with my life and I’m taking steps towards making it a reality, and in doing so my entire eating habits have changed… the ‘hunger subsided’ & I’ve stuck to my better eating habits and gym workouts easily. It’s been amazing!
Working with Kylie has been life changing. Kylie helped me get back in touch with my own body, taught me how to nourish myself and get my glowing, gorgeous body. She helped me move from self-loathing to self-love. She taught me how to consciously turn down the critical voice and turn up my inner cheerleader. Without a doubt starting with your mindset is the first place to start on your weight loss journey. Lasting results for sure and totally life changing!
What I have gotten out of the course can’t be measured. I glow from the inside out! For the first time in years; I am happy because I am happy! I love myself – I can actually look in a mirror with no self loathing… I love the woman smiling back at me and not just because my body has changed on the outside – I have changed from the inside and it is a reflection!
Everything has really changed, I finally let the girl inside out. I feel like my life has really just started. I’ve had a massive increase in personal power (from zero), sense of possibility, happiness, resilience, CONFIDENCE! Reached my first weight loss goal, I have gone from a size 12 to an 8-10. I love myself and respect myself for the first time, I cannot express how much this has changed me. Thank you does not even cut it.
I have been struggling with my weight and feeling of not being good enough for as long as I can remember…This has changed for me now. I have had more awakenings and realisations and learnings than I thought possible in the past few months. This really is SOOOOO not about the weight. I TOTALLY get that now.
I have loads more energy… I’m eating so well and exercising when I can. With my 1st baby I couldn’t cope with the emotional roller-coaster that is pregnancy. I ate, and ate, and ate non-stop. My head is in such a great place at the moment. I owe it all to Kylie and your Goddess Body Quest program x