Get clear about the goal you are working TOWARDS, that is, who you want to become, and how you want to feel instead of what you want to lose. Imagine a moment of future success, so instead of saying “I want to lose 10 kgs”, which just makes you feel fat and like a failure, imagine the moment when you can look in the mirror and be totally happy, and love what you see, your body feels healthy, and energetic. This positive goal is one that is much more achievable and less focussed on the scales and more on health and feeling good.
Often when you’re dieting all you can think about is the restriction and deprivation. So you need to build up positive links with becoming slimmer so your mind wants to achieve it. Write a list of as many ways that becoming slimmer will help you in all the other areas of your life. How will it make you a better, happier mum? How will it make you more energetic and productive in your work? How will it stoke the fire of your romance?
Sometimes you also need a kick up the butt to face the consequences and pain of staying the same or getting worse. Get real with yourself about what it’s costing you to be unhappy in your body. Write down all the ways that it is stopping you from living your potential for happiness and fulfilment? And then what are the likely consequences if you don’t make a change NOW.
Dieting does not work. You know it. I know it. So stop doing it. It will not ever create lasting weight loss. Dieting only makes you feel bad and messes up your metabolism, leaving you fatter in the long run. Instead of dieting, focus on ONE habit that will move you towards your slim self. Focus completely on just one habit that will make you healthier. Maybe it could be getting up at 6am, which means that you can go to the gym before work, or it could be as simple as including a green vegetable with every main meal, or drinking a glass of water before you drink any sodas. Latest research shows that habit swapping one by one, is the secret to creating lasting change. It’s easy and feels good. Join my free One Habit Challenge Facebook group to get the lowdown on how to do it!
You might think that being mean to your body will make you more motivated to lose weight, but the truth is it just makes your feel bad and reach for the cookies. Focus on all the wonderful things your body does for you, and start to treat it like a friend. When you stop bullying and criticising yourself it becomes easy to make healthy eating choices, and choose to go for a walk instead of sitting on the couch. Your body is the most wonderful miracle of life, even if you have cellulite, or a few extra kgs, it deserves to be treated with respect and love.
I’ve passed the big 4-0! I’ve now ‘released’ 48kgs, since the birth of my son 2 years ago. To Kylie, Selina and all my GBQ sisters, you helped me to get out of my own way, so I could coach my inner critic and encourage my cheerleader. I am getting my pre-babies mojo back and am in a better headspace than when I was fighting fit! I feel like GBQ really delivered on the greatest gift, self-love and clarity, and has given me the confidence and conviction to continue my journey! Thank you.
With Kylie’s help I released the hopelessness & anger I was using as an excuse, and have stepped out of my shell with a vengeance! I’m now clear on what I want to do with my life and I’m taking steps towards making it a reality, and in doing so my entire eating habits have changed… the ‘hunger subsided’ & I’ve stuck to my better eating habits and gym workouts easily. It’s been amazing!
Working with Kylie has been life changing. Kylie helped me get back in touch with my own body, taught me how to nourish myself and get my glowing, gorgeous body. She helped me move from self-loathing to self-love. She taught me how to consciously turn down the critical voice and turn up my inner cheerleader. Without a doubt starting with your mindset is the first place to start on your weight loss journey. Lasting results for sure and totally life changing!
What I have gotten out of the course can’t be measured. I glow from the inside out! For the first time in years; I am happy because I am happy! I love myself – I can actually look in a mirror with no self loathing… I love the woman smiling back at me and not just because my body has changed on the outside – I have changed from the inside and it is a reflection!
Everything has really changed, I finally let the girl inside out. I feel like my life has really just started. I’ve had a massive increase in personal power (from zero), sense of possibility, happiness, resilience, CONFIDENCE! Reached my first weight loss goal, I have gone from a size 12 to an 8-10. I love myself and respect myself for the first time, I cannot express how much this has changed me. Thank you does not even cut it.
I have been struggling with my weight and feeling of not being good enough for as long as I can remember…This has changed for me now. I have had more awakenings and realisations and learnings than I thought possible in the past few months. This really is SOOOOO not about the weight. I TOTALLY get that now.
I have loads more energy… I’m eating so well and exercising when I can. With my 1st baby I couldn’t cope with the emotional roller-coaster that is pregnancy. I ate, and ate, and ate non-stop. My head is in such a great place at the moment. I owe it all to Kylie and your Goddess Body Quest program x