Do you have permission to feel all your emotions? Or, do you suppress your emotions and bottle them up?
Often we have learned taboos around some emotions that stop them from expressing fully. Imagine a child very upset being told to stop crying by an adult. This common event could possibly create a rule for that child that being sad or expressing emotion is not allowed. This can create a dangerous situation where the emotions are suppressed in the body and stored, instead of being learned from and released. Just like pushing a balloon underwater, it takes a lot of energy to keep those emotions suppressed, and can result in a heavy feeling.
All emotions have a function, purpose and a learning for us. If we give ourselves permission to really feel whatever it is we feel, even if we can’t explain why, the emotion will be able to do what it’s meant to and provide us with a learning and then release.
Anger is a primal response that helps us to protect our personal boundaries. It is the alert system that some boundary or rule has been broken or transgressed. Anger can help you to stand up for yourself and be strong in challenging situations.
Sadness is a letting go emotion, it helps us to grieve for things we have lost. Sometimes what you have lost is not tangible or even able to be put into words, but it is a loss nonetheless. Sadness helps us to grieve, and deepens our appreciation of what we do have.
Fear helps to heighten our senses, to be aware of potential danger and to keep the body safe. The main response of fear is to get away from danger, roll up in a ball and stay safe. The challenge with fear is that it can sometimes be over-active and prevent action. When your fear response activates, Ask yourself: Is this a real threat to my safety? What’s the worst that could happen? Can I mitigate or prevent that risk? Or, is the risk worth taking for the benefit?
Guilt helps us to realise how our actions have impacted on others, and let’s us know we have broken one of the social or moral laws that we hold as important.
When you allow yourself to fully feel your emotions and listen to them with acceptance and appreciation, knowing that they have a positive intent or lesson for you, then they will pass much more easily than if your try to suppress them and pretend they are not there.
What lessons have you learned from your emotions?
What lessons could you learn from emotions from your past if you allowed yourself a quiet time and place to feel them fully?
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