Do you consider yourself a leader?
I’ve been thinking about the common traits of a leader.
First of all, leaders go first. It makes sense. If they’re leading, they’re the ones that go first, which means that leaders often operate outside their comfort zone and in unknown territory. So they’re forging a path into the unknown, which can be scary at times.
If you’re a leader then you have someone that is following you. You have people that look up to you, people that sometimes might put you on a pedestal, or people that project their own aspirations and sometimes their own fears onto you.
If you’re up on a pedestal then you can fall into a pit. We’ve seen before leaders in society be crucified – Jesus actually been crucified – with witch burnings, massive trials, and most recently, we have some leaders being put in jail for various crimes that they have committed while abusing their leadership and power.
A leader really needs to know how to regulate their inner world, their inner sense of peace, security, safety and stability, so that they can be comfortable and operate at their peak when they’re in a world that feels uncomfortable. When they’re in foreign territory. When they’re breaking new ground.
They need to learn how to cultivate that peace inside so that even when there’s chaos outside, they’re able to maintain their calm and peace and clarity.
Leaders, I have found, often feel lonely and unsupported; like they have to be strong all the time. With lots of people are leaning on them, depending on them and they have to be responsible for.
So often leaders feel the weight of the world on their shoulders. They have this huge stress and burden of carrying their people and they can’t show weakness.
This is probably what leads to the downfall of many leaders – because then they put on a brave face and they fake being strong when they’re not. And so, this leads to an inauthentic type of leadership which can lead to them falling down and not being a leader anymore.
True leaders create more leaders. They don’t just make followers that are dependent on them. True leaders inspire, motivate, and cultivate other leaders so that those leaders can come into their place and do those things that they’re doing, so that they can move on to do other things.
True leaders are constantly innovating because they’re putting themselves out of a job by teaching and leading others to step into their own leadership.
This is what’s happening for me right now.
As I step into greater and greater leadership, people that have been my followers, students, and clients that have now become graduates and stepping into their own leadership, are moving into a space of leadership themselves. And so it’s creating space for me to move on to a next step of my own leadership, which is super exciting!
The final point that I wanted to make about leaders is leaders must lead themselves first. Leaders operate best when they’re in their heart power.
Now I’ve got so much more to say about this. Moving from drama, victim and victimizer, aggressor and rescuer, into heart-power where you are totally responsible for yourself, you are caring and benevolent and kind, and operating from this place of beautiful leadership that is heart-centered but also strong and powerful.
Leaders operate best when they’re in their heart power.
Fully present, fully aligned, completely in their soul power – and able to lead with integrity, authenticity and grace.
So they’re able to stay calm, peaceful, rational and benevolent.
But being in your heart power is very difficult unless you have trained yourself on how to deal with your own human triggers, your own emotions, and have the support to turn to when you can’t manage it yourself.
I’ve just recently come from a 7-day retreat where I learned a wonderful technique called “The Spiral” that was created by my friend and colleague Dane Tomas – and I’m really excited about it. It’s absolutely unleashed the next level of leadership in myself and led to this shift in direction for me.
So I’m really committed moving forward to support people that are in leadership, to bring all of my 15 years of mindset coaching experience and healing experience into supporting leaders, people that are genuinely at the coal face of leading an organization, leading a business in corporate, having a huge team to manage, and are feeling stressed, under-supported, that their health is suffering, their well-being is suffering – and their leadership and their results for themselves and their team are suffering because they don’t have the internal, emotional and mental support to really operate at their best.
I’m 100 percent committed to supporting these leaders, to really make some changes, leaders that are in transition, leaders that know they’re stretched to breaking point, leaders that are really stressed out, that are really suffering in their health and their home life because they don’t have the time to actually really be present, so they’re constantly running from one thing to the other.
I’m opening up a few private coaching and mentorship spaces to take a couple of people on a private one-on-one executive leadership coaching journey, which is not just about business and strategy, but really about you stepping into being a leader of yourself and how to manage your state and stay in that heart-centered power so that you can be a leader of authenticity, integrity, grace and get on with doing the work that you’re here to do.
So if this speaks to you, if you’re excited by this, then reach out and message me. I do have a few places available for private coaching. I’m also very interested in bringing this work into organizations. I have a really powerful workshop to deliver around leadership – and if you have an organisation and would like to know more then get in touch, I’d love to have a chat with you.
I’ve passed the big 4-0! I’ve now ‘released’ 48kgs, since the birth of my son 2 years ago. To Kylie, Selina and all my GBQ sisters, you helped me to get out of my own way, so I could coach my inner critic and encourage my cheerleader. I am getting my pre-babies mojo back and am in a better headspace than when I was fighting fit! I feel like GBQ really delivered on the greatest gift, self-love and clarity, and has given me the confidence and conviction to continue my journey! Thank you.
With Kylie’s help I released the hopelessness & anger I was using as an excuse, and have stepped out of my shell with a vengeance! I’m now clear on what I want to do with my life and I’m taking steps towards making it a reality, and in doing so my entire eating habits have changed… the ‘hunger subsided’ & I’ve stuck to my better eating habits and gym workouts easily. It’s been amazing!
Working with Kylie has been life changing. Kylie helped me get back in touch with my own body, taught me how to nourish myself and get my glowing, gorgeous body. She helped me move from self-loathing to self-love. She taught me how to consciously turn down the critical voice and turn up my inner cheerleader. Without a doubt starting with your mindset is the first place to start on your weight loss journey. Lasting results for sure and totally life changing!
What I have gotten out of the course can’t be measured. I glow from the inside out! For the first time in years; I am happy because I am happy! I love myself – I can actually look in a mirror with no self loathing… I love the woman smiling back at me and not just because my body has changed on the outside – I have changed from the inside and it is a reflection!
Everything has really changed, I finally let the girl inside out. I feel like my life has really just started. I’ve had a massive increase in personal power (from zero), sense of possibility, happiness, resilience, CONFIDENCE! Reached my first weight loss goal, I have gone from a size 12 to an 8-10. I love myself and respect myself for the first time, I cannot express how much this has changed me. Thank you does not even cut it.
I have been struggling with my weight and feeling of not being good enough for as long as I can remember…This has changed for me now. I have had more awakenings and realisations and learnings than I thought possible in the past few months. This really is SOOOOO not about the weight. I TOTALLY get that now.
I have loads more energy… I’m eating so well and exercising when I can. With my 1st baby I couldn’t cope with the emotional roller-coaster that is pregnancy. I ate, and ate, and ate non-stop. My head is in such a great place at the moment. I owe it all to Kylie and your Goddess Body Quest program x