For yourself, I mean. In your own head, do you heckle from the back row, just waiting for that trip or fumble to dig the knife in, or do you support, encourage, and celebrate?
Often we speak to ourselves inside the privacy of our own brains, like we would NEVER talk to anyone else in a million years. Have a listen to your own internal chatter as you go about your day; Is it mostly pulling you up, or bringing you down?
The thing is, regardless of where and when this nasty habit started, you’re in charge of it. You get to choose whether it continues. You are the boss!
If you have an inner heckler, there are two simple ways to deal with it.
Go ahead and say this to it. “My dearest internal heckler, hello! I realise that you have been inside my head for a while now, and I’m sure you have some kind of positive intention for me, otherwise you wouldn’t still be here. Maybe it was to protect me from failing, or to keep me safe, so thanks for that. The thing is, this heckling and nastiness actually makes me feel bloody awful and doesn’t help me to do, be or feel my best. It’s actually stopping me from achieving the success and happiness I want in life. So, can you please, from this day forward vow to speak to me with a kind, calm voice, encouraging me, supporting me, celebrating every small win with me? I would really like that. Thanks!”
You may not realise this fully yet, but you are in charge of your own thoughts. So if you have a nasty voice, that won’t listen to reason (step 1) you don’t have to listen to it. You can go ahead and make the voice so ridiculous it makes you laugh. Use your imagination and get creative to “Kablammo!” it away comic book style.
– Imagine that something really ridiculous is the face of the voice.
– Change the pitch, turn it up so it’s really high and squeaky, or so low that it’s just a rumble.
– Turn the speed up, so it’s so fast you can barely understand it.
– Then, after a while, just go ahead and turn the volume right down to zero.
Remember you are in charge. You can keep a voice of reason, caution or consideration and still speak to yourself nicely. Talk to yourself like you are a trusted, loved, precious friend, and you’ll notice a difference.
How do you speak to yourself?
I’ve passed the big 4-0! I’ve now ‘released’ 48kgs, since the birth of my son 2 years ago. To Kylie, Selina and all my GBQ sisters, you helped me to get out of my own way, so I could coach my inner critic and encourage my cheerleader. I am getting my pre-babies mojo back and am in a better headspace than when I was fighting fit! I feel like GBQ really delivered on the greatest gift, self-love and clarity, and has given me the confidence and conviction to continue my journey! Thank you.
With Kylie’s help I released the hopelessness & anger I was using as an excuse, and have stepped out of my shell with a vengeance! I’m now clear on what I want to do with my life and I’m taking steps towards making it a reality, and in doing so my entire eating habits have changed… the ‘hunger subsided’ & I’ve stuck to my better eating habits and gym workouts easily. It’s been amazing!
Working with Kylie has been life changing. Kylie helped me get back in touch with my own body, taught me how to nourish myself and get my glowing, gorgeous body. She helped me move from self-loathing to self-love. She taught me how to consciously turn down the critical voice and turn up my inner cheerleader. Without a doubt starting with your mindset is the first place to start on your weight loss journey. Lasting results for sure and totally life changing!
What I have gotten out of the course can’t be measured. I glow from the inside out! For the first time in years; I am happy because I am happy! I love myself – I can actually look in a mirror with no self loathing… I love the woman smiling back at me and not just because my body has changed on the outside – I have changed from the inside and it is a reflection!
Everything has really changed, I finally let the girl inside out. I feel like my life has really just started. I’ve had a massive increase in personal power (from zero), sense of possibility, happiness, resilience, CONFIDENCE! Reached my first weight loss goal, I have gone from a size 12 to an 8-10. I love myself and respect myself for the first time, I cannot express how much this has changed me. Thank you does not even cut it.
I have been struggling with my weight and feeling of not being good enough for as long as I can remember…This has changed for me now. I have had more awakenings and realisations and learnings than I thought possible in the past few months. This really is SOOOOO not about the weight. I TOTALLY get that now.
I have loads more energy… I’m eating so well and exercising when I can. With my 1st baby I couldn’t cope with the emotional roller-coaster that is pregnancy. I ate, and ate, and ate non-stop. My head is in such a great place at the moment. I owe it all to Kylie and your Goddess Body Quest program x