A few of you may have noticed somewhat of a wall of silence from me for a few weeks and I just can’t imagine what your life must have been like without my witty repartee to get you through the tough holiday season.
My reasons for going AWOL are not, as some may believe, because I was practicing for the mince pie eating championships (although I did come second in that to somebody called ‘S. Claus’).
Actually I was being a very brave little girl and going through a double whammy of coming off my anti-depressants and going cold turkey on diet coke.
Although I am glad to be off the anti-depressants now I am more than grateful for the comfort they provided me whilst going through a truly awful period in my life. They were my security blanket and the main reason I was able to get out of bed in the morning.
A few people have commented to me that if they work so well then why ‘be in such a rush’ to get off of them? Well, I don’t necessarily consider a year and a half a small amount of time to be on them but most importantly, and as I spoke about in one of my first blog posts here, there is a vast difference between existing and living. I was existing, when, in actual fact, I wanted to be living.
As I began to work through the Goddess Body Quest it quickly became apparent that this was going to be a lot harder than I had ever imagined, and even when Kylie had the opportunity to pin me down for the day at the Gold Coast event I really struggled to answer some of the questions being asked of me.
One thing that I did make a decision about on that day was that I was not content to live in the comfortable fog that my ‘happy pills’ had come to provide me with. Because, although there was comfort, there really was no life. There was no joy. Nothing gave me true pleasure and I never woke up excited for the day ahead.
I even got to the point where seeing positivity and progress from others was really beginning to piss me off and make me feel uncomfortable as it all just seemed so fake. I was just unable to understand those emotions.
How was I supposed to set truly compelling goals and know what makes me happy when I couldn’t attach emotion to them?
In short, I couldn’t.
The actual process of getting off the drugs was done over a period of about 10-12 weeks and I’m not going to lie, it was brutal. Head zapps, nausea, mood swings, severe anxiety, panic attacks… the whole lot. But little by little I noticed my mood pick up and last week I was finally able to say I was free of my ‘happy pills’.
Ironically, my ‘happy pills’ had, in the long run, made me sad.
To win a spot on the Goddess Body Quest I wrote about how much I needed/wanted this to save my life and how desperate I was to make these changes. All words I still stand by. However, it was only in the last week that I felt driven, excited and ‘fit to burst’ about what I can now achieve through the GBQ and what I am capable of. In short, I was faking it till I made it.
So, where am I up to in my quest? I’m starting from the beginning again with a clear head and an open heart.
As I never like to do things by half I thought ‘in for a penny, in for a pound’ and decided that it was time to give up the crack cocaine of the soda world – Diet Coke.
I had been doing some research into Aspartame Toxicity and from everything I had found was pretty certain I was a prime candidate. Well, lo and behold, within 24 hours of shelving the evil dark bubbles I had lost all my cravings for the fatty, sugary escapism that had held me captive for over a decade. I did manage to acquire a 5 day headache during the detox but we won’t mention that.
I hope I have given you some food for though this week and you will be reading a lot more about my progress in the weeks to come. New year, new me.
And in closing I just wanted to leave you with a poem.
As some of you already know, my business name is ‘Phoenix Training’ as the Phoenix is reborn and rises from the ashes. Very prophetic words for me, and many of you reading this right now:
Rising from the ashes, you spread your wings to fly
Reaching now for those final dreams, belief will never die
Beautiful and so glorious, the eternal bird of fire
Soaring up into the sun, leaving behind the pyre
Dreams are now your destiny; reach with all your might
You’re a powerful inferno, ablaze and in full flight
Yesterday is over, today has just begun
The sky is now your playground your home is now the sun
Destiny is in your grasp, forget the doubts and fears
Your flame will burn eternally for all remaining years
There will be times of doubt, and moments of pure sorrow
But one thing that is ever true, you’re the angel of tomorrow
x Phoenix Russell
“Having ongoing training is essential for our team and our business. It’s important to look after the people that look after others. Kylie has the experience, professionalism and knowledge to engage with our team and help them understand about human behaviour and why people do what they do. In the wellness and health industry it’s a different sales and service delivery and it’s imperative to keep on top of these understandings to perform at our best to help others. We couldn’t recommend Kylie high enough.”
“I have worked with Kylie over many years. She has helped me as a Business Mindset Coach, as a motivational speaker for my gym clients at both Vision Personal Training & now at Flow Athletic.
I bring her in to train my Personal Training teams in mindset, communication and how to coach our clients better and excel in our own personal mastery as fitness leaders.
At my recent Fitness Business event, my gym owner colleagues were blown away by her talk, saying she is the best speaker they have ever seen.
After every event we always get rave reviews about her talks and training.
I highly recommend her work.”
“I finished the Spiritual Awakening Course yesterday and I found it truly amazing. An incredible next step after our coach training. I feel so much more enlightened and “opened-up”. It has really opened my eyes to the power of the universe and the energy flowing in each of us. I loved it – thank you.
I am feeling so lucky at the moment. So many things are just falling into my lap. I visualise it and set my intention to manifest it and it comes. Things such as getting more clients, needing help to put my business online, not knowing how to get known in my local community etc. Courses / insights / clients have just fallen into my lap at the right time.”
Of course I am still learning and growing, but the course has really helped. Thank you”
“Before I met Kylie I was feeling very lost working full time in law in Sydney CBD. I’ve known my whole life that I was here to help people, but I just didn’t know exactly how. So when I found Kylie, it just was really fitting that it was going to help me ground my magic. I started the coach training and had an amazing time. It was beautiful to go through the process of having a mentor that had that spiritual element and that holistic element, as well as the very grounded science-based knowledge as well. So that really helped me to conjure that for myself.
I started my business before I even finished the course. I just started putting myself out there. And now I’ve gotten it to a point where I’ve got really grounded solid message, and two years later am running a multi-6 figure coaching business as a leading pioneer in my niche, helping clients all over the world.”
“Before I signed up with Kylie I had a busy PT business… I was exhausted and on the brink of burnout and no matter how hard I tried, I had reached a ceiling in my income that I just couldn’t break through. After completing my NLP Coaching certification, I found my true voice and the energy of my business has been completely transformed. I’ve created an online program, up-levelled my entire business and totally smashed my previous income goals. I make decisions more confidently and I can help my clients create change in their life even faster. On a personal level, NLP gave me the inner strength to leave a toxic situation and rebuild myself which lead to me discovering the love of my life! Today I am living the life that I’ve always wanted – but just hadn’t been able to put into words. I have never been this happy or this powerful. If you want to manifest the life of your dreams I would not hesitate to reach out for help from Kylie.”
Before attaining my NLP Coach certification, I was an online trainer who was getting excellent results for “some” of my clients. I used a mixture of experience, intuition and an exhausting “helicopter-parent” style of accountability coaching. It was like the 20% of the clients who weren’t getting good results took up 80% of my effort, and it was draining my passion for my business. This meant my income was never predictable, I worked way too many hours, and I was constantly putting out spot-fires for energy-vampire clients.
Completing my Certification with Kylie has been the best decision of my career. The very next month after finishing I created a new and improved program with better boundaries and made $30,000 in new sales. I now have a repeatable system to coach my clients and I can get them both immediate AND long-lasting change, sometimes in less than 40 minutes.
In the past 12 months, I have doubled my freedom and fulfillment in my business I have created raving clients who snap up my offers and I’ve breathed fresh air into my business creativity. My income has remained the same, whilst I have halved the amount of work I was doing. This has given me the freedom to be a present mum and earn an excellent income from home.
I signed up with Kylie because I knew that to have a bigger effect as a PT I needed to improve my understanding of how the mind works. Through NLP Coach training I now have great coaching techniques that break through all sorts of negative behaviour patterns. I’ve noticed big improvements in all areas of my life including my own personal finances and my client retention. This has allowed me new freedom to work on scaling my business and helping even more people with less one on one time from myself. The coach training has given me the ability to fully unlock the power of your mindset and those that don’t have this skill are only tapping into a small amount of their potential.
This morning I had a kick-ass coaching session with Kylie Ryan.
We’ve been working together for a couple of months, and she’s the perfect person to help me integrate the rapid transformations I go through regularly. I’d been getting this vision of my fully mature creative and entrepreneurial self. His discipline, commitment, and command of wealth was 10x what mine is now, but it wasn’t really about money for him. Our coaching sessions usually roll with me saying, “Kylie, I want to be, do, and have EVERYTHING” and Kylie helping me find the archetypes and parts that aren’t integrated and bringing them together. MAGICK HAPPENS EVERY TIME.