Hey coaches! It’s Kylie Ryan, back again.
Yesterday I talked about the difference between coaching, training, healing, being a practitioner of some modality, and how lots of coaches that call themselves coaches don’t really understand the finer points of difference between these different ways of being.
There’s a really interesting ongoing conversation that’s happening inside a coach group that I’m part of where a big bunch of coaches don’t care about those differences and say that those differences don’t matter, that it’s just about the results that you get. And I totally get that.
I was really thinking about: What is the difference? Why do I care so much about this?
The difference is the coaches typically, from my perspective, that don’t really care about whether you coach, teach, train, mentor, heal – that type of thing – they don’t usually heal but coach, teach, mentor, consult, train, facilitate.
The coaches that don’t really care about the differences are usually more often teaching a skill. They’re teaching a skill. Maybe it’s a skill of marketing, maybe it’s a skill of sales, maybe it’s a skill of business development or business growth. So when they call themselves a coach, they’re actually teaching a skill development.
I care about the finer points of difference because I am a transformational coach.
The coaches that don’t care about the differences seem to be more interested in teaching a skill development of doing, different ways of being, different behaviors that you can show up in the world, and teach you a particular skill set that you can take out into the world and immediately implement to get a result.
That’s the coaches that, from my perspective, don’t seem to care about the differences. They’re like, “It’s just about the result. Do you get the result or do you not get the result?” Which is a doing thing. They’re teaching about a doing.
Ruth Kudzi is another one that’s on the side of caring about the results and caring about the precision with which you create the results.
Are you coaching in this moment? Are you training in this moment? Are you teaching in this moment? Are you facilitating in this moment? How are you showing up for your client?
It matters less about what you call yourself, because the outside world don’t really care about the difference, they care about the result – and they lump everybody in as coaches or practitioners.
But for a coach that works in a transformation of being, of how the person shows up, a shift in their identity, in how they’re relating to the world and their internal maps and models and system processes, when a coach deals in those areas, then precision is key.
Precision is very important in those instances because just teaching about the differences is not enough to make an unconscious transformational difference.
I believe that training matters when you are working as a transformational coach.
When you are working deeply in a person’s being, in their belief systems, in the clearing of emotional trauma, when you’re working with their mental health and their self identity, it matters. It matters because it’s important to know your scope of practice, where you fit in the kind of scheme of mental health professionals.
So, for me, I sit in the range of mental health professionals that help people who are functioning well in the world, who are high performers, who want to make some changes and some tweaks in their internal processing to get even better results in the world.
That’s the type of person that I work with and I can get the best results with. Because I work with the transformational inner processes, the mindset and emotional processes, that will lead to intrinsic changes in behavior.
Now, I also know that if someone is suicidal and they have diagnosed mental illnesses, that that is outside of my scope of practice and I will refer them on to someone else – and I know how to track for those issues.
I know how to track for those issues and I know when something is beyond my scope of practice and when to refer out. This is why training matters.
It’s not about having a certification or saying, “Oh I have this certification, so I’m better than someone else,” or that type of thing. It’s not about that at all. It’s about giving the best that we can to our clients and having precision in how we show up so that we know what is our lane and we know what is not our lane.
And that’s why training matters.
It doesn’t matter what training it is – but if it’s a coach training of some sort, then you get some understanding of the scope of practice, and you get some understanding of the skill sets and the processes that have come before you so you can stand on the shoulders of giants.
If you are working in transformational space, as a Spiral prac, as a Reiki, as a mindset coach, as an NLP practitioner, then training matters.
However, if you’re working as a business coach, as a sales trainer, as a marketing trainer, then you don’t need so much mindset understanding and coach training, because you’re actually just teaching a skill.
If you’re really good at that skill and you’re a good teacher, then you don’t need to know how to coach and you don’t need to know the finer distinctions of mental maps and models, because you’re just teaching a skill.
And teaching that skill is and can be transformational in and of itself – but it’s not necessarily transformational coaching, it’s teaching a skill.
Instead of having this ongoing debate of this is better or that’s better, training is required or training’s not required, or why do all these people bang on about training, it’s about precision and knowing your lane.
When you have precision of knowing how you show up for a client, then you can have conviction in your sales process as well, because you can have conviction in knowing that you can deliver a result for a client.
If you have conviction in “I’m a great trainer of x skill” or you can have conviction in “I’m a great transformer of mental maps and models and personal identity” then you can have conviction in that – and you have a clarity of what you are offering to the market.
Then it’s not muddy, right? You know your lane, you know where you stand, you know what you stand for. Everybody else can do their own thing and we don’t need to infringe on anybody else’s territory.
There’s plenty of clients to go around that need help from heaps of different people.
In my experience and years in coaching, I’ve had hundreds of different mentors and trainers and teachers in the form of books and trainings and certifications and mastermind programs and all sorts of different things – and I’ve needed all of them.
They’ve all added skills that have led to the level of mastery that I’m at now – and I’m going to continue to invest in training, because I believe in precision, I believe in excellence, and I believe in having the absolute best to be able to show up for my clients and my students to pass on that mastery, so that we can upgrade the precision of our skill set as a profession and be able to support and empower one another.
That’s it. That’s my thoughts today on precision empowers conviction.
I have a Growth Collective that is launching soon, a very low monthly membership where I will support coaches who want to empower their conviction by improving their professional skill set.
For coaches who maybe are worried that they’re feeling like a fraud, or they’re falling down in their sales process because they don’t have conviction, who are wondering if their clients are having mental health issues and they don’t even know how to measure or track that. There are ways you can measure and track that so you know what client is within your scope and what client is out of your scope.
If you would like to improve your precision of how you show up as a coach, then write PRECISE below and I will get you all the details when we launch in just a few days.
I’ll speak to you soon.
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