You have a set of stories, images and ideas about yourself that form your self-concept, and your self-concept creates the self you live in, and what you can and cannot do.
“The strangest secret is that we become what we think about most of the time.” – Earl Nightingale
Inside your Self-Concept is your Self-Image, how you perceive your body; how it looks and how it performs. Your health, your strength, your body fat levels, your fitness, your capabilities, your body shape, your “trouble” zones, are all influenced (if not outright dictated) by your self-image.
Your self-image is a mishmash of influences and experiences you had when you were very little, things people said to you, decisions you made or ideas you accepted from others. Things you assumed or deduced based on how people treated you as a child and teenager. These ideas then get locked in place as you grow up and become self-fulfilling prophecies for your life and your capabilities.
If you want to HAVE more and DO more; achieve more, then you must BE more. If you want to BE more, to stretch yourself, grow and expand into new capabilities, you need to address your Self-Image first. It determines who you are. The best way to change your Self-Image is through focussed mental rehearsal/ visualisation and repeated practice.
Amazing as it sounds, you don’t actually experience your senses through your skin, eyes, ears or nose, or mouth. You experience the world inside your brain. It is your brain that takes in, sorts and organises your sensory data into what you experience. This is relevant because your brain and unconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between what you can clearly imagine happening, and what really happens. You’ll know this to be true from any vivid dream you can recall. When you are dreaming, you are experiencing that dream as if it is real, even though your body is lying in your bed asleep.
Inside your brain there are pathways that your thoughts travel down; electrical currents like little roads and highways. When we think a thought over and over the pathway gets strengthened from a road to a highway, and it becomes easier and easier for you to think and believe that thought. At this cellular level, your thoughts affect and change your body instantly! When you truly believe that thought and it becomes a part of your self-image then your unconscious habits and choices will reflect that identity you hold for yourself, you will naturally start to live in congruence with that idea.
If you have been repeating negative things to yourself for years and years, they will have become ingrained in your self-imageand you will notice yourself struggling with “bad habits”. You may notice things like: ‘I’m clumsy’, or ‘I’m no good at sports’, or ‘I’m big boned.’, ‘I have no willpower’ pepper your thoughts. If you have negative ideas like these affecting your self-image, it’s time to begin to change them!
1. Take stock of how you currently identify yourself. Complete the sentence “I am…” with as many things you can think of, positive and negative about yourself.
2. Mark a few key negative ideas you would like to shift, and create a goal statement that contradicts them in a positive way.. eg: if you think you are not fit or not a runner, imagine yourself crossing the finish line of a marathon exhilarated, fit and healthy.
3. Get up 20 – 60 mins earlier in the morning. (Depends how long you want to spend on changing your thoughts!)
4. Write out your goals in present tense, by hand every morning. Add in more details as they come to mind.
5. Visualise yourself as having this in your life now. Imagine every detail of the moment of achieving this. It doesn’t matter if you think it is ridiculous or it’s not possible, just keep imagining it in vivid, colourful, exciting detail. Smile. Relax. Enjoy creating this moment of success. Notice how good it feels. (You can do this while you are exercising too!)
6. Repeat every morning for 90 days.
7. Take massive daily action consciously living as if you have achieved that goal already.
8. Hold on for the ride of your life as your focussed action changes your world faster than you thought possible!
What do you think? What’s your experience of this?
Please share your visualisations-come-true stories!
Big welcome to our V100 Runners! Let me know how your self-image has been shifting as a results of your run club practice and lead up race achievements…
I’ve passed the big 4-0! I’ve now ‘released’ 48kgs, since the birth of my son 2 years ago. To Kylie, Selina and all my GBQ sisters, you helped me to get out of my own way, so I could coach my inner critic and encourage my cheerleader. I am getting my pre-babies mojo back and am in a better headspace than when I was fighting fit! I feel like GBQ really delivered on the greatest gift, self-love and clarity, and has given me the confidence and conviction to continue my journey! Thank you.
With Kylie’s help I released the hopelessness & anger I was using as an excuse, and have stepped out of my shell with a vengeance! I’m now clear on what I want to do with my life and I’m taking steps towards making it a reality, and in doing so my entire eating habits have changed… the ‘hunger subsided’ & I’ve stuck to my better eating habits and gym workouts easily. It’s been amazing!
Working with Kylie has been life changing. Kylie helped me get back in touch with my own body, taught me how to nourish myself and get my glowing, gorgeous body. She helped me move from self-loathing to self-love. She taught me how to consciously turn down the critical voice and turn up my inner cheerleader. Without a doubt starting with your mindset is the first place to start on your weight loss journey. Lasting results for sure and totally life changing!
What I have gotten out of the course can’t be measured. I glow from the inside out! For the first time in years; I am happy because I am happy! I love myself – I can actually look in a mirror with no self loathing… I love the woman smiling back at me and not just because my body has changed on the outside – I have changed from the inside and it is a reflection!
Everything has really changed, I finally let the girl inside out. I feel like my life has really just started. I’ve had a massive increase in personal power (from zero), sense of possibility, happiness, resilience, CONFIDENCE! Reached my first weight loss goal, I have gone from a size 12 to an 8-10. I love myself and respect myself for the first time, I cannot express how much this has changed me. Thank you does not even cut it.
I have been struggling with my weight and feeling of not being good enough for as long as I can remember…This has changed for me now. I have had more awakenings and realisations and learnings than I thought possible in the past few months. This really is SOOOOO not about the weight. I TOTALLY get that now.
I have loads more energy… I’m eating so well and exercising when I can. With my 1st baby I couldn’t cope with the emotional roller-coaster that is pregnancy. I ate, and ate, and ate non-stop. My head is in such a great place at the moment. I owe it all to Kylie and your Goddess Body Quest program x