I found you guys on Facebook. It popped up on Facebook, and I think at the time I was just feeling really yuck and just feeling… not fully down, but I was feeling down. I was having trouble shifting my weight. I was trying to do lots and lots of things, but nothing seemed to be working. I saw it and I just signed up for it before I basically had time to think about it. I really just signed up and just went from there.
I feel really confident. I’m doing things that I wouldn’t normally do. Like today, I tried to conquer some fear of heights. I did the Illawarra zipline. That was just something that I would never have done 6, 12 months ago. I just would have been like, “No, that’s not going to happen.” While it was so scary at the same time, I was kind of happy to put myself out there, and I guess just start living life really. Just really start living life again than just sitting on the couch, watching everybody else have a good life.
It’s like a flying sock essentially. It’s up in the treetops so it’s up quite high. The guide did give us the height measurements today but I was really shaking. But we were quite high and there were these bridges you had to cross — you can essentially see through it. It’s just like crossing across these bits of wood and there’s nothing underneath it, so you can kind of see down. It’s quite high and it’s essentially terrifying. You are harnessed in and you can’t go anywhere, but it was very high. And I did it!
And scary as it was, I thought about pulling out when I got to the first thing, and the guide looked at me and said, “You’ll be all right.” I kind of didn’t really have time to… had he given me something more than two seconds, I possibly may have bailed, but then I would’ve stood on the bottom and grumbled. So I’ve actually done it. I did it.
I conquered kind of a bit of fear of heights. I don’t know if it’s completely conquered or if it’ll ever go away, but at least I know that I can do it.
I feel more confident at work, and I’ve just recently put in an application for promotion. I actually feel very confident that I can get myself through the interview process. I don’t feel that doubt towards the interview if I get to that point. I feel like I’m ready to just be very confident. Like I know I can do these things and that I’m very good at my job, but I think I’ve just finally got the faith in myself that I can do it, and I will do it.
I didn’t. I had no belief, I think, was my issue. I don’t think I had any belief in myself. And now I do believe in myself and that I can do things. And I will do it. Whereas before, it was just like, I wanted to do it, and I wanted to be able to do it, but I just didn’t have the tools necessary to carry that off.
Just my way of thinking has changed. Whereas before, I’d be just like, “Well, I can’t do it” or “I’m not good enough to do it.” Whereas now, it’s just like, “Well, yeah, I can do it.” I used to look at other people and see them doing it, and I was thinking, “What’s so different about them that they can do it but I can’t?” And I’ve learnt that there’s nothing different. It’s just that now it’s my self-belief, and that yes, I can do it. That’s a big step to me.
I’m eating better. I’ve always struggled with my weight. It’s always kind of gone up and down. There were a couple of little medical issues that I kind of probably also used as an excuse. Now, it’s kind of like, just because it’s a little bit harder doesn’t mean you can’t do it. I just have to look after myself really, really well. Eat really, really well, and just keep exercising.
Some days it is hard and you don’t want to get out of bed to go exercise, but you just got to do it. And I find that that’s really good for my mental health, my mental well-being, as well as my physical well-being.
I was one of those all-or-nothing people. I would go hard and fast, and then I’d see no results. Then I’d get dejected. Then I’d stop. Then I’d turn to food. It was this vicious cycle. Whereas now, I get up and I do something every day. Whether it’s my PT sessions, whether I go to my spin classes, or whether it’s to walk around the lake, I do something every day. Even on days when I think, “Oh, I’m going to have a rest day today,” I still do something. I actually really miss it if I don’t.
As far as my food goes… I’ve just been away and we had a really nice dinner last night, and I was just like, “I can have a glass of wine.” I’m not too bothered, and I’m not putting pressure on myself. If I eat something that… not good or bad, because I kind of don’t think like that anymore. But if I’ve eaten something probably not great, it’s okay to have it once every now and then. It’s just that I’m not eating it all the time.
It’s just food now. It’s not good or bad. I think every time I caught myself there I’d be like, “Oh, that’s bad.” That puts these negative thoughts in your brain, and then you start down a negative track. Then you’re like, “Well, I’ve had that now, might as well be bad for the rest of the day.” Whereas now, if I do have an ice cream or I think I’m going to have a chocolate bar, I don’t look at it now that “Oh God, you just messed up everything.” It’s kind of like, “Yup, you did have it and you enjoyed it, and that’s good,” and then I just keep going on with my day.
Exactly. I don’t even know how to explain how that shifted, but I am just much nicer. I don’t beat myself up. I think it’s kind of like the food thing. If you eat something and then you think, “Oh God, I’ve wrecked the day,” so you have to keep eating. Whereas now it’s like, “Well yeah, you did have that chocolate bar, but there’s nothing wrong with having that.”
I’m just being so much nicer to myself. I’m not giving myself a hard time. It just seems to flow I guess, as opposed to having me stop–start all the time.
When I first started, I first said, “Oh my God, I can’t do this. It’s really hard.” And I thought that I was always wrong. I guess throughout the program, I started to learn that, well no, this is about you, and this is your journey, and this is your end. It’s whatever you put on that paper. There is no right or wrong. I guess I’ve learned now that there is no right or wrong. It’s just about me, and it’s just learning further.
That was actually, probably a really big thing for me because I used to always think, “Oh God, I must do it wrong?” Sometimes you would ask questions, and I’d be like, “Oh, is that the wrong answer?” And now it’s just like, “But there is no wrong answer. This is how it affects you.”
This was probably the biggest thing for me that I learned about myself, is that you’re not wrong.
That was the biggest thing. That there is no right or wrong answer. It’s what works for you.
What works for you won’t work for somebody else because they could be having different thoughts than I have about things. Whatever is going on in your mind is your mind. It’s nobody else’s.
Trying to sell myself. I’ve never been really good at selling myself, but I’m getting used to that. I’m getting used to saying, “Well, yes, you can do this.” And I have confidence. I can see the confidence. I can see what other people see in me — I am caring, I am a very good friend… I’m running out of ideas here.
I’ve gone through the course. I’ve listened to the audio tapes. I think I was in a place where I was just like, “This is kind of it.” You can’t want something but then not do anything about it, if that makes sense. So, at some point, you have to be proactive. Nobody else can do this for yourself. Some days it felt hard, but then other days it doesn’t. At the end of it, it doesn’t feel like it was that hard at all. Once you get your mind past it all, you really can do what you need to do.
They’re fantastic! Often, after our phone calls, I would just feel this enormous weight lifted off my shoulders. And that would just last for quite a long time. It wouldn’t just go back 10 minutes after the conversation. I could actually feel that lightness for quite some time. I guess whenever I started to feel myself going kind of back down again, I’d be like, “Well, no, pick yourself and keep going.” The coaching was fantastic.
I’m more open. I’m much more trusting. That is probably a big thing for me. I’m kind of letting my guard down a bit more. I’m always open to the possibility of new friendships and new relationships. I don’t look at people with distrust all the time. It’s just kind of like, “You got to give people a chance until they prove you otherwise.” And chances are they won’t prove you otherwise because that wasn’t the issue. It was me that had that issue.
I was totally closed off. I would say that I was open, but I wasn’t. It was just so much easier to be closed off all the time and not to worry. I was self-protecting myself. You can’t get hurt if you don’t let somebody in. Whereas now, I’m very open to letting somebody in, which is a very big thing for me as you know. We’ve gone through this together. I was very closed off to it, and now I’m very open to it. I kind of didn’t think that it would ever happen.
I’m going overseas next year, and I’ve introduced renovations to my house. I’ve finally asked some people to give me a hand, because I realized I can’t do everything on my own. And trying to do everything on your own isn’t fun. That just makes life feel a bit more stressful, trying to get everything done yourself. So, asking people. And people do want to help me.
By being so closed off, I wasn’t giving other people the opportunity to help also.
Definitely! I feel really good. I feel really happy and confident where I am. There’s just no way I would’ve got there without our conversations and the course. Even things that you hold onto for so long that until somebody points it out and like, “Yeah, that’s not right.” Sometimes it does take other people to help you see things, and just to work through things. When you’ve got your mind set on something so firmly, it’s very hard to change that even if you want to. And unless somebody shows you how to change it, then you’ll just stay the same. It’s definitely been the best thing I’ve done.
Just to do it. It really isn’t hard. Just do it. There is no right or wrong. It’s your answers and you only have to worry about yourself, not what you think other people will be putting down in that. You just do it.
I’ve passed the big 4-0! I’ve now ‘released’ 48kgs, since the birth of my son 2 years ago. To Kylie, Selina and all my GBQ sisters, you helped me to get out of my own way, so I could coach my inner critic and encourage my cheerleader. I am getting my pre-babies mojo back and am in a better headspace than when I was fighting fit! I feel like GBQ really delivered on the greatest gift, self-love and clarity, and has given me the confidence and conviction to continue my journey! Thank you.
With Kylie’s help I released the hopelessness & anger I was using as an excuse, and have stepped out of my shell with a vengeance! I’m now clear on what I want to do with my life and I’m taking steps towards making it a reality, and in doing so my entire eating habits have changed… the ‘hunger subsided’ & I’ve stuck to my better eating habits and gym workouts easily. It’s been amazing!
Working with Kylie has been life changing. Kylie helped me get back in touch with my own body, taught me how to nourish myself and get my glowing, gorgeous body. She helped me move from self-loathing to self-love. She taught me how to consciously turn down the critical voice and turn up my inner cheerleader. Without a doubt starting with your mindset is the first place to start on your weight loss journey. Lasting results for sure and totally life changing!
What I have gotten out of the course can’t be measured. I glow from the inside out! For the first time in years; I am happy because I am happy! I love myself – I can actually look in a mirror with no self loathing… I love the woman smiling back at me and not just because my body has changed on the outside – I have changed from the inside and it is a reflection!
Everything has really changed, I finally let the girl inside out. I feel like my life has really just started. I’ve had a massive increase in personal power (from zero), sense of possibility, happiness, resilience, CONFIDENCE! Reached my first weight loss goal, I have gone from a size 12 to an 8-10. I love myself and respect myself for the first time, I cannot express how much this has changed me. Thank you does not even cut it.
I have been struggling with my weight and feeling of not being good enough for as long as I can remember…This has changed for me now. I have had more awakenings and realisations and learnings than I thought possible in the past few months. This really is SOOOOO not about the weight. I TOTALLY get that now.
I have loads more energy… I’m eating so well and exercising when I can. With my 1st baby I couldn’t cope with the emotional roller-coaster that is pregnancy. I ate, and ate, and ate non-stop. My head is in such a great place at the moment. I owe it all to Kylie and your Goddess Body Quest program x