“But, it wasn’t my fault. It was YOUR FAULT!”
It’s so easy to blame others when something goes wrong. Blaming seems to absolve us of all responsibility, it makes us right and them wrong.
Do you know someone that always has an excuse for everything?
It seems like they always have something to whine about or some excuse why they don’t have what they want. They are not very happy people. If you can recognize this trait in yourself, ask yourself: Is this useful? Does it help or hinder my life?
The thing is, in order to get what we want, we have to take responsibility for our actions. Response – ability. The ability to choose a response, this is the gift we have as human beings. We can choose our response and don’t have to get caught up in knee-jerk reactions. The ability to choose a response is power, choosing to blame someone else is choosing to be a victim of their behaviour and gives up your power to them.
When you can rise above the problem situation and take responsibility for yourself you will find that you have much more power in the situation.
So the next time someone does something that affects you, instead of blaming them, look at the situation through compassionate eyes and ask yourself: how have I contributed to this? When you can see the part you played then the blame disappears and you can asses the situation more truthfully. This then gives you a solid foundation to learn and fix the current problem.
When you can begin to see the world in this way, you will feel a lot less like a victim, and instead acknowledge your own power to effect change in the world.
“Having ongoing training is essential for our team and our business. It’s important to look after the people that look after others. Kylie has the experience, professionalism and knowledge to engage with our team and help them understand about human behaviour and why people do what they do. In the wellness and health industry it’s a different sales and service delivery and it’s imperative to keep on top of these understandings to perform at our best to help others. We couldn’t recommend Kylie high enough.”
I have worked with Kylie over many years. She has helped me as a Business Mindset Coach, as a motivational speaker for clients when I had my gyms with Vision and more recently at Flow Athletic. I bring her in to train my Personal Training teams in mindset, communication and how to coach our clients better and excel in our own personal mastery.
I highly recommend her work.