You know, that number on the scales that seems to have some kind of invisible barrier around it, no matter how hard you exercise or diet, you just cant get down past it?
Many of my clients talk about this as the major pain point in their weight loss efforts. It seems that they are doing “everything” right and still can’t get to their real dream weight.
There are many things that can cause this invisible barrier. Here are some of the most common…
If you are only focusing on losing weight, you are actually focusing your mind on the fatness that you don’t want. It’s like driving while only looking in the rear view mirror. You absolutely must be able to picture your future self clearly, to feel, hear, smell and taste that moment of success. That will create a compelling forward vision that can get you over the hump.
Food is just food. Just fuel for your body and brain. That’s all. It’s not love, or happiness, or comfort. Those are ideas that you may have associated with food through your experiences, memories and beliefs. It’s not food though. They are abstract concepts that you have linked to eating. You can get comfort, love and happiness without food. Really, you can.
Even though you really want to be slim. If you’re struggling, you may have sneaky, unconscious negative beliefs about slim people. Some of the ideas I have heard over the years include; slim people are no fun, they are picky, bitchy, nasty, arrogant. If you’ve had ‘skinny bitch’ thoughts over the years and like to think of yourself as a caring, fun, relaxed person, this could be an invisible, mental barrier that creates stuckness and sabotage because unconsciously you don’t want to become nasty and bitchy.
When you have already lost weight, you tend to compare yourself with how you used to be, and as you get less fat, you feel like you have something to celebrate. The problem is that you might want to celebrate with a cupcake or glass of wine or two.
Many women have such a long and arduous history with their weight battle that they don’t believe that it’s really possible for them to achieve the results they secretly dream of. This is a huge barrier in itself.
Often the set point, stuck weight is not the fattest you’ve ever been, it’s usually somewhere in the middle between your biggest and your goal weight. The reason it’s in the middle is because your two end points hold you there. Imagine you have two giant rubber bands around your waist, at one end is the biggest you, (painful fatness & comforting food) and at the other end is the smallest you (painful deprivation, and slimness). These represent extremes of your personality, both pulling you in different directions. Because both sides have merit, both have benefits and drawbacks, and both are inaccurately distorted, you end up fluctuating somewhere in the middle to unconsciously avoid the pain of both ends.
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