Worry is just visualizing all the things that could go wrong. It causes the feeling of anxiety, and you can easily spiral in to feeling like you’re in real danger, raised heart-rate, clammy hands etc. when the only danger is in your head, inside your imagination.
So I’m going to let you in on my special trick. (Well I can’t really claim it as my own invention, I’ve just internalized an anxiety-killing process from NLP)
So here’s how you do it.
When a little worry or fear comes up, you immediately say “NO!” (in your head) and erase the image, or movie in your mind.
Then immediately replace the movie of the worry with the movie of your ideal outcome, like you’re watching yourself on a screen, happy and safe.
So here’s one in practice. I see the guy across, sweating like crazy, I say to myself, “Geez we’re in a tin-can in the sky”, and start to picture plane crashes. Eek! Then I immediately erase that and deliberately create an image of me happily and safely walking out of the airport with all of my bags at my destination. I picture that over and over again, until my mind just moves on to something else.
And one for the pregnant ladies. A couple of times the idea of miscarriage has come up around me recently, which, activated me a little because…. Surprise! I’m pregnant with my second child. (Yay!) So immediately I create a vivid picture of me in the hospital bed, blissed out with a healthy newborn baby contentedly breastfeeding. I run that little movie over and over in my head until it is my truth, this is my future, and I relax.
Kind of, but on steroids. Vivid visualization actually activates the neural pathways in your brain as if that event was actually happening. Your brain doesn’t know the difference between an imagined event and a real one. So every time you imagine vividly the ideal outcome happening, you’re creating a template for success. It’s like you’re greasing the pathway for the wheels to go down the path of awesome, instead of the path of disaster.
Give it a go sometime. If you practice it enough you’ll start doing it with everything… It’s seriously addictive, and feels great, and it works too! Yay!
I cannot begin to imagine the grief of a woman who has lost a baby or is dealing with miscarriage, and in no way do I mean to make light of that at all. If this is something you have experienced, my heart goes out to you. As a pregnant woman, I just need to be clear about what thoughts I allow to take root in my mind and which ones I must let go of.
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