What would you do if you could not fail?
Yesterday I asked on my Facebook page: “What would you do if you could not fail?” It’s a great question for eliminating the critical inner voice and helping you to get to the heart of what you really want to do with your life.
The answers on my page were inspiring. You want to do incredible, amazing things!! Cool!
If you haven’t answered yet, write down your answers now. And here’s some other questions to open up your thinking, write the answers to these ones too, then post them below.
- What would you do if you only had 3 months to live?
- What would you do with your time if you had 100 million dollars?
- What do you want to do before you die to have lived life to your fullest potential?
- What would you do if you didn’t care what anybody thought of you?
There is an idea in NLP (short for Neuro-Linguistic Programming; one of the incredible change techniques I use) that there is no failure, only feedback. I LOVE this idea because it frees you up to experiment, take risks and take action towards what you want.
If you let the fear of failure stop you from beginning what you really want to do, then you will end up feeling restless, disappointed in yourself and potentially turn to food to fill the hole in your heart. The very reason you are thinking about whatever your dream is, is because you have the capability to achieve it. You are thinking it, because you love the idea of the person that you would BE when you have accomplished it. You simply would not even imagine it if it wasn’t possible.
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I urge you to take on this idea: there is no failure, only feedback. It helps to diffuse the emotion and personalising that makes challenges, setbacks and “failures” so demoralising. When you have a setback… repeat after me… “It’s just feedback. What can we learn from this to improve next time?”
When you attach your identity and self-worth to the outcome of things that you do then you’re in for a roller coaster ride of emotions. There will always be some times that you do not succeed, times that you are challenged and when you leap and end up falling into a packet of tim-tams. I’ve fallen, failed and crashed and burned many times in my efforts to achieve my goals. However I simply don’t focus on this, I just keep getting up and focussing on what I want to achieve. You just need to keep refining, learning, getting up and keep on going, when your outcome goal and what you want to contribute is burning so brightly in your heart, you simply cannot let these little bumps along the way deter you.
This is true whether you are losing weight, starting a business, running a marathon or travelling overseas to explore the world. When you have achieved the success that you want, you will look back and appreciate it all the more because it was not easy, because it challenged you to grow and expand outside of your old comfort zone.
It doesn’t have to be a massive leap either, think of one tiny thing you could do today, to begin the pathway to your dream goals. Even if you don’t know the whole way yet, commit to taking the first step, and you’ll be amazed at what opens up for you.
With all my love, Kylie. x
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